Category: Commentary

I find myself thinking about my maternal grandfather quite often these days. I never met him. He died shorty before I was born. Nonetheless my mother often spoke of him with a tone of respect for his hard work and his wisdom. He had left his place of birth in an area of Eastern Europe that would eventually become the nation of Slovakia. 

At the time of my grandfather’s migration to the United States tensions were brewing in Europe. The area where he lived was ruled by the Austro-Hungarian empire and there were many reasons for him to want a better life for himself and my grandmother. The Hungarian wing of the government was pushing for uniformity of language and political thinking. The many languages of the differing areas had been outlawed in schools and all of public life. Everyone was commanded to speak only Hungarian and to tow the line of dominance by the ministers of the empire. 

My grandfather saw that he needed to leave his homeland and start a new life in a country with a democratic government. Thus he saved his money until he had set aside enough to pay for his passage across the Atlantic to America. He set his hopes on Houston, Texas, a somewhat fledgling town that often advertised its possibilities with a great deal of exaggeration in brochures sent all across Europe. Somehow the message made its way to my grandfather and soon he was making his way to the port in Galveston on a steamer ship from Bremen, Germany. 

My grandfather began his life in the new world with a job on a farm in the an area near the present day ship channel. He lived frugally in a boarding house quite near the area where the Houston Astros would one day build their baseball stadium. Within a year he had save enough to send for my grandmother and once she arrived their adventure in the United States would begin in earnest.

At first they both worked on the farm but eventually they would move around to wherever work was available. My grandfather officially earned his citizenship before the outbreak of World War I. While he was a bit old for service in the military he nonetheless had a draft card that originated from the Beaumont area of Texas. Shortly thereafter his first son was born to be followed by nine other babies in the nineteen twenties. Two of them would die as infants but the remaining eight would be a lively bunch and my grandfather and grandmother were both up to the task of caring for them. 

Grandpa worked diligently and saved every penny until he had purchased land in the east end of Houston. Then he paid cash to a builder to complete one room at a time until there was a home that still stands on North Adams Street. When the Great Depression devastated the country my grandfather kept his job at a meat packing plant. With a garden in back of the house and a cow that provided milk his children never missed a meal even if the offerings were sometimes meager by today’s standards. 

My mother spoke over and over again of her father’s love of the Untied States of America and the freedoms it gave him and his family. He urged his children to always cherish and protect their freedoms. He lead Sunday meetings in which he taught them about the importance of hard work and temperance in all things. He spoke of his own childhood and the country from which he came. He expressed his hopes that one day the people there might enjoy the same freedoms as those in the United States. He cried openly when Hitler invaded Czechoslovakia and cried again when the Soviets took charge of the country after World War II.

My mother described how their father would gather them around the radio whenever President Franklin D. Roosevelt or his wife spoke to the nation. Her father would speak of them as exemplars of leaders who cared about the people. He urged his children to be proud Americans and to never take their freedoms for granted even when they were taunted as “dirty Pollack immigrants” 

With the chaos of Trumps second presidency I have felt the kind of concern for my country that my grandfather so surely must have felt for his homeland. I too have cried many times as I have witnessed the ugly disregard for immigrants, minorities, women and people who have made different choices regarding their religion or sexualities. I have cringed at the threats being hurled at our freedoms, but I have also marveled at the courageous men and women who have been willing to risk speaking out, standing firm in their resolve to follow the Constitution. Somehow I believe that if my grandfather were still alive today he would exhort us to speak out to keep our nation intact. He would tell us to continue voicing our concerns and using the rights that have made this nation a haven for those who want a good and decent life for themselves and their children. 

My grandfather was grateful for the opportunity that the United States gave him with few restrictions. He literally just showed up one day and built a new life with little more pushback than a few insults hurled his way. He loved his country and that love has trickled down to me and my brothers and my children. When we protest or speak out it is only because my grandfather’s legacy continues to voice our need to vigilantly defend our right to speak our minds, a luxury that was denied to him in his homeland by tyrants. Grandpa taught me how fragile and precious our freedom can be. Now I will defend it and resist any efforts to weaken it for anyone. It is my duty. 

To Dr. Jill Biden, Former First Lady of the United States

Dear Jill,

I am writing to you as a woman, a wife, a mother and a fellow American. I cannot begin to express the level of admiration that I have for you. In a very small way I am much like you. I too was a teacher but I only reached the level of a Masters degree in my education. I truly appreciate the hard work that it took for you to earn a PhD all while raising a family and following your husband on his political journey. I know that your love of all people and your devotion to our nation will always be remembered with gratitude.

Right now you and I are on yet another similar journey. Both of our beloved husbands have been diagnosed with prostate cancer. While the love of your life has a much more advanced stage than mine I nonetheless can imagine the concern that you are feeling at this moment. I have also experienced so many questions about how my husband’s cancer came to advance as far as it has. It is as though people somehow expect us as wives to notice things early enough to rush our men to the nearest doctor. Of course hindsight is always twenty twenty and surely everyone understands that we would like nothing more than to catch the cancer in its earliest stages. 

I know that you will deal with the journey that lies ahead with grace. It is the way you always are but sometimes in this life we are asked to carry such heavy burdens that it almost becomes too much to bear. I admire your courage but also pray that you will know how much we all love you and your husband. The two of you took us through some of the darkest and most frightening times of our nation’s history. Sadly the response of far too many Americans has been to find fault with you and President Biden every step of the way. I cannot imagine how you bear up under the unfair criticism that comes from having to live so publicly. I truly hope that your journey in the coming months will afford a modicum of privacy without analysis while your husband fights to end the cancer that has invaded his body. 

You are a truly good woman and role model no matter what anyone says. You have endured great sorry and incredible successes along with President Biden. The present moment of our nation is so wrought with anger and lies that you must sometimes feel exhausted. I feel certain that history will nonetheless judge you and your husband to be just the panacea that we all needed during the dark times of Covid 19. I began to breathe more easily as soon as Joe was inaugurated and I loved seeing the two of you so lovingly interacting with each other and the American people. You brought joy to a sorrowful time. If not for the jealousy and vindictiveness of Donald Trump the many lies about you and your husband and your family would never have occurred. I am so so sorry that these terrible things happened to you even to the point of poking fun at your doctorate. 

I do not understand how we have reached this watershed moment in our country’s history. I will never comprehend why good people are thought to be bad and evil people are judged to be good. Up is down and down is up. There seems to be no sense to the sorrows of the world or the anger that is breaking our nation apart. Of all the times it has to be particularly difficult to you and President Biden because much of your lives have been dedicated to the people of the United States. How can it be that in the midst of so much turmoil and so many lies that you must also walk with your husband while doctors attempt to save his life. 

I know that President Biden is a deeply religious man. I believe that God will hear his prayers. I know that you will do whatever you need to do to protect him and help him to heal. I will be thinking of you as I too begin an uncertain journey with my husband. I will think of you each day that I sit in a waiting room while he receives his treatments. I will think of you when the days become long and uncertain. You will be in my thoughts and I will be asking God to shower his love on you and Joe. Both of you have served our nation so well and so unselfishly. Nobody will ever convince me that you are anything but a model of kindness and compassion. If you get angry at the invasion of your privacy I will understand and defend you. Somehow you have walked through fire over and over again with grace. May God be with you and with President Joe Biden. May you know that there are many of us who love you and wish you the best. 

Yours, 

Sharron Little Burnett

I have officially been retired from teaching or being a school administrator since the end of May in 2011. It’s difficult to believe that fourteen years have passed since I walked the halls of KIPP Houston High School. My former students are now in their thirties, forties and fifties. Many of them have children who are graduating from college or getting married. I find myself wondering where the time goes and how it seems like only yesterday that I was teaching pre-schoolers while I finished my degree and earned my certifications.

I’ve stood in so many classrooms in front of both eager and challenging students. I learned right away that each of them had a story that would tug at my heart. Some were eager to grab the opportunities of education. Others were so burdened with troubles that it was difficult for them to concentrate. Some had exceptional parents who gave them the foundations of a good life. Others were overwhelmed by family and personal situations that few of us would be able to navigate without help. I see their faces to this very day and I even keep in touch with many of them. 

Since retiring I have cultivated a new group of students. Only months after I had seemingly hung up my teaching spurs, I got an itch to be with students again. I felt a void in my life that could not be satisfied by trips or mornings sleeping in when the younger people in the world were scurrying off to work. I missed the challenges and the emotional rewards of helping a young person to master concepts and become a model adult. I searched for new ways to continue the vocation that seemed to be an essential part of my very existence.

I found a tutoring job that was incredible while it lasted but the funding for the program changed and so did the rules for which students I was allowed to help and even the means by which I would do so. I was unwilling to compromise the personalized assistance I had given the students to become a monitor while they worked canned computer programs over which I had no say. It seemed that I was finally retired in every sense of the word.

Life is filled with surprises, unexpected joys that come our way when we are least expecting them. Out of the blue I got a message from two ladies who were looking for someone to teach math to their sons. The boys had been homeschooled but the mothers realized that the math that they needed was slowly but surely becoming more and more difficult for them and for their boys. Thus began a journey that introduced me to a new set of students and kept me doing the thing that I most love. 

Those two boys are now men. I got them all the way through College Algebra and along the way picked up their siblings and a few of their friends. This year three of the younger crew are graduating from high school with dual credit degrees from community colleges. They are excitedly planning to continue their education in the coming school year. One of them has earned a degree from the Bauer School of Business at the University of Houston, earning the distinction as the youngest graduate of 2025 at the age of eighteen. Now I am teaching the siblings in the families and enjoying the experience of working with young people as much as I always have. 

I know for certain that the youngest members of our nation are far better and far more intelligent than many citizens believe them to be. The reality is that one generation after another has looked at the younger set with a suspicion that perhaps they are not as driven or polite as they should be. When I was a teen in the long ago the adults were horrified by our “hippy” ways. We were far too outspoken for their taste. They worried that we would not amount to much but somehow we survived just as today’s generation of adolescents and teens surely will as well. 

Most of us find our way out of the confusing days of growing up and become model citizens who work hard and act nice. So too have I watched the progress and success of the thousands of students whose lives I shared for a brief moment in time. I only know of a couple of them who took a wrong turn and ended up in jail. All the rest have demonstrated their mettle and created extraordinary lives for themselves and their families. Many of them have become teachers who are far better than I ever was which has made me so very proud. 

I still see those faces staring expectantly at me on the first day that we met. I would learn their strengths and attempt to shore up their weaknesses. I would privately cry about their sometimes overwhelming challenges and celebrate their victories. I carry them in my heart and think of them often. I hope with all of my being that they will always know how much I love them. 

I listened to the man speaking of how he worried that his dying grandmother might leave this life on his birthday. I understood why he felt that way because deaths on meaningful dates are rarely forgotten. Year after year those occasions become painful reminders of loss. It is difficult enough when someone dies on a random day but when that moment comes on or near a time that will forevermore be a trigger of remembrance, it is somehow doubly bad. 

I was once celebrating with a group of teachers at Christmas time. The food and the company were both great and we were chatting gleefully when one of our colleagues suddenly burst into tears and rushed away from the table. I left to look for her and found her outside sobbing uncontrollably. I worried that she was having some kind of medical scare but when I inquired she simply shook her head while attempting unsuccessfully to halt her tears. I stood near her not knowing what to do. I feared that if I suddenly attempted to hug her she might push me away. I decided to just take her hand and give her the time she needed to recover. 

Once her tears had stopped she told me that one of the carols playing in the background inside the restaurant had been her mother’s favorite. She recalled how her mother would stop whatever she was doing just to hear the tune. Her mom would smile and close her eyes with unadulterated pleasure and then proclaim that it finally felt like Christmas. Sadly my friend’s mom had died on Christmas Eve a few years back. Her death had been a shock to everyone. She had a stroke and was gone before an ambulance reached the location where the family was celebrating with Christmas music playing from the family stereo. Just before she collapsed she had once again been happily enjoying her favorite song with her eyes shut and an angelic grin on her face as her favorite carol boomed across the room. 

My friends explained that every Christmas time since that tragic moment she had been unable to hear the song that her mother had so enjoyed. It was an emotional reminder of the tragedy that would forever be associated in her mind with Christmas. In spite of a decade having passed since her mother’s death, the song was like a pushing a button that brought back memories that never seemed to fade in her mind. 

I totally understood her feelings. I have experienced the same kind of traumatic flashback every May 31 since my father died. At one time the Memorial Holiday was set for that exact date, revolving around the seven days of the week in a recurring pattern. Eventually the date was instead celebrated on the last Monday of May rather than changing from year to year 

On May 30, 1957, my mother had spent most of the day preparing food for the family celebration that was scheduled to take place at the beach the following day. I boasted to my friends in the neighborhood that it would be an adventure with my aunts and uncles and cousins. I looked forward to swimming and people watching. Mama had made her “famous” chocolate cake and baked beans that were legendary. Daddy was going to cook hamburgers and slather the patties with my mom’s yummy homemade barbecue sauce. Her potato salad was cooling in the refrigerator and my mouth was already watering with anticipation. 

Mama shooed me and my brothers to bed early on May 30. She told us to sleep well so that we might have breakfast, get dressed and leave before nine the next morning. It was our turn to secure a good spot on the beach for the whole extended family. With visions of what the morrow would bring I shuffled off to my bedroom without complaint. 

It took a bit of time for me to fall asleep but when I finally did I dreamed of the fun that lay ahead. I liked those outings to the beach with my family more than anything about summer except perhaps the vacations that Daddy planned each year. I already knew how wonderful Memorial Day would be. Somehow at that stage of my life I did not yet realize that it was actually a holiday to remember our fallen soldiers. I just thought it was the send off for a great summer.

I awoke early on May 31, just as the sun was rising. I was so anxious to get the ball rolling that I was ready to jump up and run to the kitchen but I heard something that sounded strange. I decided to stay in bed while I listened to my mother talking with someone on the phone. Her voice did not sound right and she seemed to be talking about a person using the past tense. I could not imagine who might be the subject of her comment nor why she was having such a conversation in the early morning hours. Before long I had put the pieces of her puzzling sentences together. I believed that she was speaking about my father, but why?

My stomach was growling enough that I lost interest in sleuthing and headed for the kitchen to prepare a bowl of cereal. I was shocked to see one of my aunts there looking nervous and distracted. She asked me if I wanted to eat and I responded that a bowl of cereal would be fine. her demeanor was anxious and I too began to feel that something was very wrong with the scenario playing out in my house. I wondered again why my mother was on the phone telling someone about my father as though he was a memory, not the man sleeping down the hall in his bedroom. 

I suppose that my aunt suddenly realized that I was looking puzzled because she came over to the table and sat in the chair closest to me. In that moment she almost blurted out that “God had called my father.” I played dumb even though I knew what she meant. Nonetheless, I did not believe my ears. My aunt had to tell me with very clear words that my father had died in a car wreck in the early morning hours of May 31. 

I don’t recall much that happened after I got the shocking news. My aunts and uncles and cousins came to our home. The Memorial Day festivities became a day of mourning and grief and have been so for me every year since then which is probably more in keeping with the original intent of the day. Each year the last day of May takes me back to that kitchen and to the horror of losing my father. 

I’d like to say that maturity has helped me to move on from the emotions that swept over my being back then, but in truth I am much like my friend whenever she heard that song that was playing when her mother died. May 31 sends me plummeting down over and over again. In fact, my sorrow on that day seems to only grow as time goes by. I even find myself having silly thoughts like wondering why my father-in-law got to live well into his nineties while my father was only on this earth for thirty three years. It’s a silly and senseless way to be, but I suppose that emotions find strange spaces to hide. There will never be a time when I forget.

So Donald Trump has justified his tariffs and the difficulties that they may bring to ordinary citizens with one of the most clueless and least compassionate comments that he might have made. He opined that maybe children “will get two dolls instead of thirty at Christmas” but it will be worth the sacrifice in the long run. 

Don’t get me wrong. It is possible, but not too probable, that his tariffs will work out much better than most economists believe. That’s not the point I want to argue at this moment, but rather the crassness of his assumption about how the not so rich live. It’s obvious that it has never occurred to him that most children only get one doll and if times get hard they may not get a doll at all. 

I realize that Donald grew up with a silver spoon in his mouth. He never really had to work too hard to enjoy the pleasures of wealth. He had a head start that few of us ever enjoy. I understand that because of his experience he may not fully appreciate the struggles of the ordinary everyday American. I can actually relate to his lack of insight because I was once like that in the long ago. 

I lived the high life of a most fortunate little girl. My father was an engineer and everything about my life was several notches higher than the reality of my cousins. We always had a custom built home filled with gorgeous furniture, china, crystal, silver. We had books and records and one of the first televisions. Our car was never more than two years old and we travelled all over the United States on vacations. At Christmas time I might actually get numerous dolls. I took it all for granted even as I noticed that things were not quite so luxurious for my cousins. I made assumptions about people based only on what I knew. 

Of course all of that changed when I was eight years old and my father died. The world as I had known it tumbled down around me. We moved to a smaller home that was the definition of ticky tacky. Our car was not something that was not going to impress anyone. Everything about our lives became more measured. We had to adhere to a strict budget and my brothers and I learned to appreciate whatever we had without wanting more. My mother was masterful at working with an exceedingly tight income and she taught me all of the tricks for getting by on a thread. My whole worldview changed and it was as though scales had been lifted from my eyes. I began to realize that even though my family struggled there were others having an even more difficult time of just surviving. I learned how to see things through the eyes of others and to consider how my own decisions might help or harm my fellow humans. I was enlightened by my experience. Some might even say that I became woke.

I suppose that we each view the world according to our own experiences but we would do well to learn more about those in different situations. I know that having my father-in-law at my dinner table everyday for three years has shown me just how much we make choices and say things based on what we have known in our lives. He speaks often of the perks of being the son of a doctor. During the Great Depression when my mother was lucky to get a nickel for her birthday he was receiving gifts of electric trains and toy cars that he could ride around in. I don’t think my mother ever went to see a doctor until she was expecting a baby but my father-in-law enjoyed regular visits and exceptional care. Sometimes because of his lifestyle that has followed him all the way to his ninety sixth birthday he seems as unaware as Trump to the needs of others. I have had to do a great deal of educating of him and in some ways my influence has indeed changed him. 

Sadly Trump does not seem to have any advisors who do anything but praise him for his every remark and action. They seem to be afraid to explain how hurtful some of his remarks might be for ordinary people who have never had two dolls on Christmas day much less thirty. He would do well to find such a person to explain to him what it is like to struggle even while working and scrimping and saving. Being poor is not always a sign of laziness. Sometimes it is just a matter of circumstances like what happened to my mother and me and my brothers. 

I have adjusted to my father-in-law over the years. I have enough confidence in myself to know that I did not need to purchase my clothing at an expensive store like he always did when there were bargains to be found at a low end outlet. I am proud of being the daughter of an industrious and creative woman who somehow managed to get by on an income so meager that most people would not believe how little there was if I told them. I learned from my mom how to survive in times when little girls may get only two dolls instead of thirty like Trump predicts may happen. I know the joy of inheriting her skills. I can make a pot of soup with leftovers and run down a bargain when I need to purchase something. I’m ready for the sacrifices that Trump is predicting that we must all make but I would sure appreciate it if he actually understood what it will be like for us rather than making ridiculous remarks from his gilded castles. Some Americans don’t have a private plane or the ability to celebrate a birthday with a ninety million dollar parade. Maybe just maybe Trump would do well to get out more and find ways to spread the wealth to those who actually need it instead of giving massive tax breaks to billionaires. The American people deserve so much more.