The Porch

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There was a time when houses in Houston, Texas almost always were raised from the ground and had porches that led to the front door. Grandpa William and Grandma Minnie had a home like that. There was something quite inviting about that kind of entryway where my grandparents often sat in anticipation of our arrival as though they wanted to greet us as soon as we reached their home.

Their porch was always decked out with a swing, a glider and cushioned chairs. It was a grand extension of the house. Sitting outside was a daily routine for my grandparents once they had completed their daily chores. They knew all of their neighbors who passed by and more often than not stopped to chat for a time.

We spent so many wonderful moments on the porch that Grandpa had constructed with a roof that kept the harshest aspects of the weather from forcing us back inside. He screened in the whole area to keep the flies and mosquitoes from bothering us as we sat in the shade with fans moving the air even on the hottest days.

I loved sitting next to my grandmother on the glider and watching her click the needles that crocheted some of the most beautiful creations that I have ever seen. Grandpa would hold court in a rocking chair puffing on his pipe and telling stories of his younger days. Somehow neither the heat nor the cold forced us back indoors. That porch was incredibly comfortable and always a fun place to be. 

My grandparents lived in the Houston Heights at that time before my father had died. Their house was built of stucco crafted by Grandpa. The porch was the best room in the house that had windows strategically placed to create breezes that kept us comfortable no matter which room we chose but the porch was ultimately the place to be.

Grandma kept orange sodas in the refrigerator for our visits. It never took long before we were all sipping away while being enchanted by the coolness of the porch which benefited from the shade of a strategically placed oak tree. Somehow my grandparents had understood how best to take advantage of the cooling power of nature.

In the fall we would get whiffs of the burning leaves that neighbors collected into the ditches in front of their homes and then set on fire. No candle of modern day has been able to recreate such a delightful aroma. Even better was the fact that everyone up and down Arlington Street was as friendly as people in a small town and they never failed to stop by to welcome us and to chat a bit with my grandparents. 

In the winter we donned our coats and Grandpa set out heaters that somehow kept us as warm as if we were inside. Grandma would bring out the quilts that she made by hand and wrap them around our legs. Instead of orange soda she make hot cocoa for us that was creamy and had just the right amount of chocolate and sugar. 

Spring brought Grandma’s Easter lilies that adorned the entire front of the house. People would drive by slowly to snap photos of the glorious sight and my mother would take a of photo of me there when I made my first Communion. 

I loved visiting my grandparents and most of all I liked that front porch. My own more modern homes had no such thing nor did the other places in our neighborhood. Instead everyone had patios in back of the house behind a fence. We never got to see the parade of life in our hidden haven and nobody came to say hello. Even though it was a private place that felt calm and comfortable it did not have the feel of being part of a friendly community like those houses with front porches always seemed to be. They were a welcoming place where neighbors felt free to gather, a kind of lost concept as the world became more and more modern.

My grandparents home is still there on Arlington Street. The screened in front porch is gone and the stucco has been painted a kind of battleship gray. My grandmother’s lilies are long gone as well and as with most places now the neighbors tend to stay inside with their air conditioning in the spring and summer and their heaters in the winter. The days of the homeyness of a front porch seem to be thing of yesteryear.

I have to admit that I have adapted to that same way of life. When the weather is not too hot or too cold we sit on the patio in our backyard behind a wooden privacy fence. We hear our neighbors enjoying the outdoors but we do not see them. It is sad but true that we are missing something that used to be so enchanting.   

The Reunion

I attended a private Catholic high school in the mid to late nineteen sixties. Back then our Catholic parents believed it was their duty to send us to a religious school and so I spent my high school years at Mt. Carmel High School run by Carmelite priests and School Sisters of Notre Dame. Even though we were in Texas our education greatly resembled what Cathlolic students might have found in the midwest because our priests were mostly from Chicago and our nuns often hailed from St. Louis. 

Ours was a rather small and personal school with about one hundred twenty five students in each class. Back then we were grouped according to an admissions exam and our grades and recommendations from middle school. I ended up in the Honors classes but the principal warned me before my first school year started that my test scores indicated that I would probably have trouble with the coursework in that group. He said that I was on probation based on recommendations from my former teachers. Needless to say his announcement made me anxious from the start and determined to prove him wrong. 

I worked hard and spent the next four years with essentially the same small group of students give or take a few changes here and there. Ours was a very traditional and somewhat classical curriculum with Latin, German, History, English, Civics, Physical Science, Biology, Chemistry, Physics, Religion, Speech, Debate, Algebra I and II, Geometry, and what would now be called Pre-Calculus, I saw the other students who were not in this group in the hallways, at lunch, at pep rallies, during Religion classes and in clubs. Otherwise we had very little time together. 

I am proud of the education that I received at Mt. Carmel. It was mostly wonderful but I would have enjoyed having a bit more interaction with the rest of the student body. Many of the girls were members of the drill team and forged great friendships there. I took a slightly different route and tended to encounter many of the same people over and over again. Because I was incredibly shy at the time. I never ventured too far away from the same girls with whom I ate lunch for those four years. Still I always felt that everyone in my class was a good person and most of them were always kind to me. 

I left Mt. Carmel High School in 1966, and began my journey into becoming an adult. As with most people my road was not always straight and narrow. There were twists and turns and challenges in the ensuing years. I kept in touch with some of the people I had known from school while others drifted away. Time passed while we all made life choices and gained confidence in ourselves. 

I stayed in Houston to take care of my mom whose bipolar disorder asserted itself not long after I had graduated from high school. I met a young man who had attended an all boys’ school across town and we were soon falling in love and planning a future together. That future led me in many directions but never too far away from home. Now and again I would encounter some of the students with whom I had gone to high school and some of them literally walked hand in hand with me as we began families, purchased homes and enjoyed moments together. 

Recently our Class of 66 celebrated a 60 year reunion. By then we were all in our late seventies and experiencing the signs of aging. Some of our classmates were already gone from this earth. Nonetheless around thirty something of us drove out to the Monument Inn on a Saturday evening to enjoy a hearty seafood dinner and a celebration of our lives.

Without name tags we may not have recognized each other but with those references we began to see the smiles and the wit that we had known back in the days of our youth. Everyone was so excited to be there and to see each other and tell the stories of where they had been and the adventures they had enjoyed. What we all seemed to have in common was a genuine appreciation for each other and for the education and fun times that we had experienced back in the day. It was a kind of love fest that reminded me of what truly good people with whom I had spent my teen years actaully are. It was incredibly nice to learn about the joys of their lives and tough to hear about losses they may have endured. it was magical to feel so relaxed around people who were simply enjoying each other and celebrating the bygone years. 

I don’t know if we will have another reunion in ten years or even five. We may have reached a point at which we need to get together for an hour or two several times during the year just to stay in touch. People as good as my classmates are a treasure that I hope I will be able to keep close. The Mt. Carmel Class of 66 played a huge role in forming the person that I now am. I will cherish them all forever.