Winning

i282600889611819106._szw1280h1280_We all have dreams of accomplishing something important in life but the eternal question that remains unanswered is, “What is a life that is truly well lived?” When we speak of “winning” what do we really mean? How do we find that often illusive balance that allows us to shine in our work world but also to be a good and loving individual in our personal world? 

I struggle with such questions. As a society we are often quick to honor the man or woman who excels in a particular career while underestimating the worth of those who lead quiet but incredibly compassionate lives. Who is of more worth to society, the person who is the CEO of a major company or the daughter whose time is spent laundering her mother’s soiled clothing, purchasing her mom’s favorite foods, and visiting her aging parent everyday at the nursing home? Perhaps there is no fair way to compare people but the elephant that always seems to be in the room is that our society in general does just that. We are often in awe of those who have tangible accomplishments of title and wealth but undervalue the enormous contributions of stay at home moms, caretakers, and volunteers. We bow to the expertise of a college professor but may question the knowledge of an elementary school teacher. We somehow tend to rank the importance of each of the contributions to the betterment of the world in ways that too often undervalue some incredibly remarkable people and professions.   Continue reading “Winning”

The Little Things

i282600889611672877._szw1280h1280_They say that the little things in life are all that matter, but what are those little things? For me  they always occur in a fleeting moment that surprises me and takes my breath away. Such memories are rarely planned, they just happen and become forever unforgettable. There are countless ways that someone or something can make life special and most of them don’t cost much, if anything. 

I remember those nights that I awoke to feed my daughters when they were first born and I was so weary. In the dark I gently rocked them and dreamed of what their lives would become. Not even my wildest imaginings equaled reality for I did not yet know just how wonderful life with them would prove to be. Sometimes it seems as though I sat with those infants only last evening. There is very little that I have done or accomplished that even begins to compare with those precious moments.  Continue reading “The Little Things”

Gone to Parts Unknown

I love to travel but I’ve never really been able to do it the way that I would most like. That is to say that I would prefer to just randomly choose a direction and then follow it without too many preconceived plans or any type of time table. The ultimate experience would be just to one day stock my trailer with clothing and provisions and take off like explorers of old. Mike and I would be modern day incarnations of Lewis and Clark, discovering both the majestic and the mundane as we drive down the road. The great thing about having no schedule is that it would allow us to tarry in places that drew our interest and to follow those prosaic roads less traveled. Our trailer would be akin to covered wagons of old. 

The only problem with such gypsy like travel is that we would no doubt often find ourselves having to park overnight at a Walmart or rest area because campgrounds tend to fill up with more rational individuals who reserve spaces far in advance. Serendipity can leave one stranded in the modern world but boon docking without electricity isn’t necessarily all that bad in a pinch. There is something quite alluring about simply following the wind and never knowing exactly where we will be from one day to the next. In fact, Mike and I have found some of the most awesome and memorable places when we were doing little more than driving aimlessly around. 

One time while journeying toward Montana we saw a tiny sign announcing that we were only a few miles away from “The Ruts.” Of course our curiosity got the best of us and we left the main road in search of this mysterious sounding place. Our route ended at what had once been an old trail followed by pioneers moving west. The constant traffic from wagon trains had left the imprint of wheels permanently etched in the stones. The site was literally in the middle of nowhere and the silence, save for the whistling of the wind, was haunting. An historical marker indicated that the intrepid people who came along this route often had to pull their wagons themselves because the “roadway” was too treacherous for the horses. As I stood there I literally felt the spirit of those individuals who had little idea of where they were going or how their new lives would be. I understood the sheer effort and courage that they must have mustered to be willing to continue moving ahead. I wondered what form of desperation had led them to this desolate place. Seeing those ruts was one of the most interesting experiences that I have ever had and if we had simply stuck to our original travel plans I would never have even known that they existed. To really know a place is to explore its unfamiliar and hidden treasures. 

I’ve been watching The Big Blue on PBS this week and wanting to kick myself on the backside. A few years back Mike and I brought our grandson, Jack, to this part of the world on a trip designed to focus on San Francisco and Yosemite National Park. In Yosemite it was on an almost ignored trail that we had our most wonderful hike. In the San Francisco area it was along the Pacific coast that we found the truest sense of discovery. On one particular day we randomly chose to travel to Monterrey Bay which was about one hundred miles from our hotel. We knew little about the place and were ill prepared for our journey but what we found when we got there was majestic. The only real trouble with our visit was that it was far too short. We should have spent several days really getting to know and understand what we were seeing. After watching the PBS special this week I realize just how much we missed. Questions that we had were explained on the program. Now I find myself wanting to return, only this time I will tarry a while and slowly digest the wonders of this extraordinary place.

I can name so many random adventures that we have enjoyed that turned out to be far better than our original plans. A trip to Chatham on Cape Cod was so delightful that we set aside our schedule to spend an extra day so that we might get to know the essence of the tiny town. Driving along the old mining road from Colorado Springs to Cripple Creek proved to be a journey that none of us have ever forgotten. Renting a Jeep and going up a treacherous mountainside in Ouray, Colorado was breathtaking. Jostling on washboard roads to reach Chaco Canyon was worth breathing in all of the dust. Grocery shopping in the real Forks, Washington was enchanting. Walking along the Civil War battlefield in Fredericksburg, Virginia was moving beyond description. Each of these treks came from last minute decisions and yet they were more fun than many of the destinations that we had placed on our original timetables. 

Mike is ready to become a road warrior. He has set up all of our monthly expenses so that they may be paid for online. He has equipped our trailer with extra battery power and sewage capabilities. He often speaks of wanting to follow the path that Lewis and Clark took in their incredible journey from St. Louis to the Pacific Ocean. I would like to follow the Oregon Trail or go from one end of Interstate 10 to another. Grandson, William wants us to take him to San Diego and then head north in a journey through California. I’d like to travel the length of the Atlantic coast or visit the northeast in the fall. 

I tell myself that there are so many places and so little time and yet now that Mike and I are retired I wonder what else we have to do. One of my former principals is perpetually on the road. He visits one exotic place after another and only returns to refuel and check on his home. Another friend plans to live in her RV for the coming months, traveling to parts unknown. 

I remember watching a strange movie with Harrison Ford in which he and his family simply left their home in the middle of dinner so that they might search for adventure. They didn’t do the dishes or put away the leftover food. They just got up and went away. Of course, I can’t imagine going to that kind of extreme but I think that it would be fun to get up one morning, hitch the trailer to the truck and just choose a direction and go. 

This morning when I was reading the BBC news online I learned about an interesting place in Georgia known as “The Georgia Guidestones.” It seems that way back in 1979, a stranger came to Elbert County with a proposal for a structure that he and an unnamed group of businessmen wanted to erect at the top of a mountain. He called himself R.C. Christian and he secured all of the necessary permits and financing to erect a strange edifice composed of five granite slabs topped by a granite capstone. A center post is surrounded by four monoliths that are celestially aligned. A slit in the capstone marks the phases of the moon and the solstices. On the front and the back of each of the four stones are suggestions for living. The instructions are written in eight different languages including English, Spanish, Russian, Arabic, Swahili, Hindi, Chinese, and Hebrew. The strange message is as follows:

  1. Maintain humanity under 500,000,000 in perpetual balance with nature.
  2. Guide reproduction wisely — improving fitness and diversity.
  3. Unite humanity with a living new language.
  4. Rule passion — faith — tradition — and all things with tempered reason.
  5. Protect people and nations with fair laws and just courts.
  6. Let all nations rule internally resolving external disputes in a world court.
  7. Avoid petty laws and useless officials.
  8. Balance personal rights with social duties.
  9. Prize truth — beauty — love — seeking harmony with the infinite.
  10. Be not a cancer on the earth — Leave room for nature — Leave room for nature.

Nobody has ever unlocked the mystery of who was responsible for the structure or what its message is intended to convey but it has become an attraction for tourists from around the world. I think that I would like to go see the place just for the fun of it. Who knows what else I might discover along the way?

The world is filled with so many wonders and many of them are right here in our own backyard. Don’t be surprised if one day you pass by my home and see a sign attached to the front door that announces, “Gone to parts unknown!”

Walk a Mile in My Shoes

i282600889611600320._szw1280h1280_Long ago when I was still a student at Mt. Carmel High School a priest took a group of us outside on a pleasant spring day. As we sat on a set of bleachers he spoke of a native American idiom, “Walk a mile in my shoes.” He wanted us to consider the other person’s point of view before drawing conclusions and judging. He hoped to develop a sense of empathy in us by setting forth various scenarios and asking us how we thought we would react if confronted with similar situations. What we learned on that day is that we each view life just a bit differently depending on our backgrounds and personalities. Still we share certain commonalities as humans regardless of where we may live. Every human being seeks love, understanding, security, and comfort. We may not have much in common with people from other cultures but when stripped of our economic and superficial differences we all experience hunger, pain, and fear. 

We come into this world so pure and innocent. We are like blank slates just waiting to be molded and educated in the ways of the world. If we are particularly lucky, as I have been, we will be surrounded from our first days by love and encouragement. We will enjoy the freedom and opportunity to become whomever we so choose to be. Not everyone is so blessed and therein lie the differences that make it sometimes difficult to understand one another. Over time we are the sum total of our genetics and our experiences. By the simple accident of being born in the United States of America we have a very good chance of living a far more comfortable life than many of our brothers and sisters who share this planet with us. From day to day we may grumble about our bad luck but in the still of the night most of us have to admit that ours is a pretty good life after all.   Continue reading “Walk a Mile in My Shoes”

Rational and Humane

i282600889611561170._szw1280h1280_There has been a great deal of talk here in the United States regarding immigration for decades despite Donald Trump’s claim that he introduced the topic when he decided to run for President. What few citizens truly understand is the changing nature of immigration rules and patterns over time and the efforts to improve policies to meet the most current needs of the country. The discussions of immigration reform tend to center on false rhetoric and emotions rather than facts and the law.

For almost one hundred years the borders of the United States were essentially wide open. Whoever wanted to come needed no permission to either enter the country or to stay. At the turn of the nineteenth century low cost steamship travel made it easier for immigrants to reach American shores from across the Atlantic. My own grandparents boarded boats in Bremen, Germany to reach Galveston, Texas from their native land in the far north of the Austro-Hungarian empire around nineteen twelve and thirteen. In 1882, the Congress had passed the first immigration law ever. It banned people from China from entering the country as immigrants but access of other groups of people was virtually unfettered until 1917, when a new law created a long list of undesirables who would no longer be welcome in our country including those from Japan, India, Middle Eastern countries, as well as Europeans over the age of sixteen who were not literate. My own grandmother would have been barred from coming here had her journey not occurred earlier for she never learned to read or write.  Continue reading “Rational and Humane”