Once Upon a Time

Fairytales can come true.

It can happen to you

If you’re young at heart…

i282600889611905699._szw1280h1280_When I was eight years old my favorite stories were fairytales and I really and truly believed that they were real. My beliefs were reinforced when I attended my first wedding. My eldest cousin, Leonard, was marrying a beautiful young woman named, Jeanne. The two of them seemed as close to being a prince and princess as any couple that I had ever seen. 

 I didn’t know Leonard as well as my other cousins. He was a good ten years older than I was and of course didn’t hang out with us younger ones. I was in awe of this handsome teenager to whom I was related. I worshiped him from afar and my esteem for him only increased when he introduced his lovely girlfriend. My aunts told me that Jeanne had been a popular cheerleader and beauty queen at her high school. I never knew if what they had told me was true but she certainly fit my impression of the kind of young woman who would have been revered by her classmates. The best thing about both Leonard and Jeanne is that they were always so kind and friendly to everyone. They were gorgeous and talented people who were simoly down to earth.  Continue reading “Once Upon a Time” →

An Angel

i282600889611922014._szw1280h1280_There are angels who live amongst us. I have been fortunate enough to not only get to know a few but also to number them among my friends. One of the loveliest of them all is Adriana Stovall. 

Life has a way of giving us what we need when we need it. I was working at Revere Middle School and both my boss, David Kendler, and his secretary, Eloisa Diosdado, moved to Sharpstown High School. They wanted me to go with them but I had an inner feeling that I needed to stay where I was. I was so sad to see my good friends leave. David had been instrumental in changing the course of my career. To say that I felt forever grateful to him is an understatement. Furthermore, Eloisa and I had been good friends for many years. We even rode to school together and I had taught both of her children. I knew that I would miss them terribly and I was so afraid of who might take their places. I needn’t have worried! The new principal, Ken Estrella, would become like a brother to me and his secretary, Adriana, would become a very special lifelong friend.    Continue reading “An Angel” →

Making History

i282600889611858498._szw1280h1280_My mother was never a big fan of royalty. She always declared that she would have a difficult time curtsying to a king or a queen. For that matter she found the tradition of kissing the ring of a Catholic bishop as a sign of respect to be rather absurd. Mama was one of those people who sincerely believed that every human being was one hundred percent equal to every other person who lived on the earth. She did not think that the accident of one’s birth should ever define them. She felt that the trappings of wealth and title were only a veneer and that underneath all of the accouterments we were basically all the same. Strangely, however, she greatly admired Queen Elizabeth, not so much because she was a monarch but because she was a sterling example of a fine lady. 

For as long as I am able to remember my mother liked to draw comparisons between herself and Queen Elizabeth. She pointed out that they were only two months apart in age. Mama often noted that Queen Elizabeth had dark hair like she did that she wore in a similar style. My mother enjoyed noting that Prince Charles and I were born in the same year. In so many ways Mama saw herself as the commoner version of the queen. Even during the nineties when Queen Elizabeth’s popularity faltered a bit my mother was an unwavering fan. She noted that Princess Diana who was at the heart of much of the trouble simply did not fully understand the responsibilities of being a leader and she winced while noting that she did not think that Diana fully appreciated the need for decorum under any circumstances. Mama often posited that our own country’s Jackie Kennedy carried herself more royally than Diana did.  Continue reading “Making History” →

Winning

i282600889611819106._szw1280h1280_We all have dreams of accomplishing something important in life but the eternal question that remains unanswered is, “What is a life that is truly well lived?” When we speak of “winning” what do we really mean? How do we find that often illusive balance that allows us to shine in our work world but also to be a good and loving individual in our personal world? 

I struggle with such questions. As a society we are often quick to honor the man or woman who excels in a particular career while underestimating the worth of those who lead quiet but incredibly compassionate lives. Who is of more worth to society, the person who is the CEO of a major company or the daughter whose time is spent laundering her mother’s soiled clothing, purchasing her mom’s favorite foods, and visiting her aging parent everyday at the nursing home? Perhaps there is no fair way to compare people but the elephant that always seems to be in the room is that our society in general does just that. We are often in awe of those who have tangible accomplishments of title and wealth but undervalue the enormous contributions of stay at home moms, caretakers, and volunteers. We bow to the expertise of a college professor but may question the knowledge of an elementary school teacher. We somehow tend to rank the importance of each of the contributions to the betterment of the world in ways that too often undervalue some incredibly remarkable people and professions.   Continue reading “Winning” →

The Little Things

i282600889611672877._szw1280h1280_They say that the little things in life are all that matter, but what are those little things? For me  they always occur in a fleeting moment that surprises me and takes my breath away. Such memories are rarely planned, they just happen and become forever unforgettable. There are countless ways that someone or something can make life special and most of them don’t cost much, if anything. 

I remember those nights that I awoke to feed my daughters when they were first born and I was so weary. In the dark I gently rocked them and dreamed of what their lives would become. Not even my wildest imaginings equaled reality for I did not yet know just how wonderful life with them would prove to be. Sometimes it seems as though I sat with those infants only last evening. There is very little that I have done or accomplished that even begins to compare with those precious moments.  Continue reading “The Little Things” →